I have loved capturing my children’s childhoods in pictures. Like all growing kids, they are each their own kind of wonderful at every stage. I love watching them create themselves.
Right now Oliver is 6, Chloe is 8, and our oldest, Elliot, is 10 today. I’ve been a mother now for a decade, which blows my mind. At the same time, it’s hard to remember life before these little people cracked my heart wide open.
Was it really 10 years ago that I watched these big blue eyes dance in the moonlight at 3 a.m. night after night? It doesn't seem possible. Yet, he can mysteriously circumvent the parent controls on his iMac to get to YouTube, so I guess this is really happening.
Besides being a future coder (or hacker), Elliot is a very sensitive and kind boy. His sweetness makes us so proud. He is usually happy, but when he's sad, he doesn't hide it. Drew and I couldn't ask for a bigger hearted, more compassionate boy. He is learning to understand his own emotions, and the emotions of others. If someone is crying—even if Elliot is the one who's crying—he will give a hug, or ask for one. He says, "May you have happy, please?" He has been known to literally push frowns upside down with his fingers. Elliot is autistic, but that hasn't stopped him from feeling a whole lot of empathy for others.
They say when you become a parent, nothing is different except that your heart is now walking around outside your body.
Having three is fun, they learn so much from each other about the single thing that matters most in life—love. As humans, I suppose we all want our people to know how much we love them, and feel our people's love in return. These three are spending their childhoods creating sibling relationships that will last a lifetime.
Drew and I try hard to be good parents. We try to model and teach them about love, compassion, apologies, gratitude, honesty. All of it. It is wonderful and exhausting. We do our best.
These three make Drew and me feel like we are doing a decent job. Not bad for two people who had no idea what we were doing when we drove away from the hospital and began this adventure 10 years ago.
Love you, my little stars.